‘I’m Going, That’s That!’ Getting Your Friends & Family To Accept Your Solo Trip

“Oh wow you’re going to (fill in the blank travel destination), that’s amazing, who are you going with?” Your friend or perhaps your mother or father asked you excitedly with a little bit of envy seeping into their voice.

Sighing internally you reply, “I’m not going with anyone, I’m going by myself.”

Unbeknownst to them,  you’re friend’s or parent’s face drops and worry takes over their features, “Oh.” They pause, “Why are you going by yourself?”

You decided to take the plunge to travel alone to get away from the stress of work life, your personal life or just to finally be able to be one of those people who could confidently say “been there, done that.” Making the decision to travel alone isn’t always an easy one for some people, but once you’ve come to terms with the sights you’re going to see and the new people you’ll meet, you understand its worth it in the end. But the problem remains, how do you convince your family and friends that it’s good to fly solo too?

Approved for ages 18 and up

If you’re traveling alone, safety is always a massive concern for all your friends and family, especially if you have one of those mammy’s who tried to keep you in a car seat until you were 14 -years-old.

You may be going it alone, but there are dozens of rules and regulations designed in so many places meant to keep you safe these days, why do you think you keep seeing more and more stories pop up on your news feed about your friend’s cousin who journeyed around the world for a year?

Travelling solo has been made so much easier and safer just make sure to share a few of the safety tips and numbers with your friends available in the place you’re travelling too to assure everyone.

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“Well, what are you going to do there, by yourself?” Gee, I don’t know, I was just planning on sitting around and twiddling my thumbs thinking about absolutely nothing for the whole duration of my trip. Okay sorry, heavy sarcasm, but you get the point.

You can’t be bored or lonely if you’re going to be constantly doing something every day of your trip.

That’s why you should always plan ahead and make sure to share your plans with your family. Not only does this let them know where you’ll be and when, but it lets them know all of the fun and exciting plans you have when you’re traveling, you know, just in case they thought you’d be bored while sitting on a beach in Lisbon.

Hey, look new people I don’t know!

“See guys, I can make friends!” While you may be enjoying a few relaxing days by yourself chances are you are going to seek out a few friends along the way whether you intended to or not.  If you happen to go out with a new friend you met at your hostel or hotel, make sure to snap a quick pic and save it to send to your fam and friends later.

This will prove to them that there are hundreds of people around you, and you’ve actually gotten to know a few of them and make new friends. Now don’t take this as an initiative that you absolutely have to force someone to take a picture with you, but if you get the moment after going out on a fun walking tour with a group of people you met and had fun, ask to snap a quick pic to commemorate your day!

Greetings from Space

Expressing your thankfulness or gratitude for being able to get away for a while always can ease any belief that you aren’t having fun while you’re away. Just by sending a postcard, you can scribble a snapshot in time to your friends and family explaining some of the fun things you’ve been up to and places you’ve been.

A postcard is also much more personal than a text message, so whoever you left behind back at home won’t feel too sad or think that you’ve abandoned them to set off to the world on your own.

Name Drop it like it’s hot

Seriously cannot emphasize this one enough. If you know someone who’s gone on a trip before by themselves and lived to tell about it, tell EVERYONE. Name dropping people is literally how you convinced your parents to needlessly buy you a cell phone  when you were 12 years old, “well my friend Sarah just got a cell phone for her birthday, and her parents are okay with it, so….”

Name dropping is also how you managed to snag your new job during your interview,  “I worked alongside Mark in the marketing department for a couple semesters during college.” If you know someone who’s been there and done that, and it’s a name most of your friends and family recognized tell them about it. Knowing someone who’s experienced something before you instantly, for whatever reason softens people’s perceptions of trying new things, and will make them feel better and more accepting of you trying it, like travelling solo.

The Next Big Idea

J.K. Rowling was on a train for four hours, too afraid to ask anyone for a pen when she came up with the idea for Harry Potter.

Steve Jobs travelled to India for spiritual guidance before returning to the States start Apple. Sometimes travelling is just what the doctor asked for to get you out of a funk and a new perspective of your life and perhaps what purpose you are meant to serve.

Who knows, you could be on a beach, watching waves roll on by when you come up with the idea to start a new novel that will change the way you read nonfiction forever! Sound too good to be true?  Because it isn’t,  it’s actually happened before. So if you’re friends and family are giving you a hard time, just let them know you are taking some time off to receive a spiritual awakening or inspiration for the next big idea.